![]() While you are encouraged to save copies of hostile e-mail sent to you, it is very important that you not send hostile e-mails to anyone. Hostile e-mail has also become huge in family court, as a document used to show someone’s bad behavior. It’s extremely tempting to respond the same way. ![]() Blamers love sending them and use them to attack you, your family and friends, and professionals. Hostile e-mail exchanges have become huge in divorce. Remember BIFF When Responding to Hostile E-mails You can get the current version of "Splitting" at my website. Bill came up with something called the B.I.F.F. The booklet "Splitting: Protecting Yourself When Divorcing a Borderline or Narcissist" by Bill Eddy, often seen as the bible for divorcing a BP or NP, is going to be published as a book in July, 2011 by New Harbinger.īill and I rewrote large portions of Splitting for publication, and I would like to share some materials with you that aren’t in the current version.ĭuring divorce and beyond, hostile emails are common. I think many of us can use the advice given here. When this happens, the last thing any of us would want to "defend" is an email we've sent out of anger/frustration. Some of our members have struggled with (custody battles) when the family situation devolves into a crisis mode. ![]() It never hurts to keep this in mind whenever we're attempting to engage our disordered relatives using email. Given the litigious nature of our modern society, we shouldn't ever be surprised when something we wrote in an email later surfaces to "bite" us when we least expect it. Its tenets: Brief - Informative - Friendly & Firm are simple, common-sense tools we can all use. While it was written - with a different audience in mind, its principles can be adopted then applied to email exchanges with (problematic) family members. This technique was recently shared with - by Randi Kreger (Co-author of SWOE, among others)
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